JEALOUSY OR MADNESS?

Jealously is normal in everyone, we all have a level of jealousy in ourselves but we tend to control this before it get out of hands. We sometimes love people and materials without a wish of losing them to anyone but when killing the people we claim to love, it is termed madness and not love.

There are different happenings today that warrant us to think twice while claiming to love or jealous. 
   
One of these happenings to learn from is a story about a woman named Maryam Sanda was sentenced to death by hanging for the murder of her husband, Bilyaminu Bello.

Bello had a woman named Amina Shagari in his life before he later got married to Sanda. Bello and Amina were so good together and everything was going on well, until Maryam Sanda came into the picture as the second wife. The first wife had to leave her husband place beacuse of the high level of Maryam jealousy.

An ugly incident happened one day because the wife went through her husband phone and saw a nude and some romantic chats with his desire to get a new wife.
She got so upset and threatened to quit the marriage. She demanded for divorce and threatened to kill the husband or cut off the genitals if he refused to grant her request. The husband's friend was with them for hours, trying to make peace but Sanda was just too angry to listen. 

She broke a groundnut bottle in an attempt to stab her husband but the broken bottle was collected from her. She went on to break the perfume bottle, but the husband collected it. Knives were said to have been collected from her severally during this period. 
The husband's friend got injured in the process. The only child in the house was crying but no attention was given to her by her angry mum. 

The husband's friend eventually got tired and left with the intention to go and call their other friend but unfortunately came back to meet the death of the his friend Bello. He was said to have bite marks, stab wounds in the chest, close to the heart and in the genitals.

Maryam Sanda called on her mother and brother and the maid to tamper with the evidences. They were all charged but it was later dropped. 

Maryam was pregnant with Bilyamin child when this incident happened. She gave birth to the child in the prison. The marriage was two years old as at when the incident happened, they had two children together.
At a point, Maryam was released on bail cos of health issues but  unconfirmed reports have it that she went home and threw a birthday party for the child. It was the talk of the town.

"It has been said that thou shall not kill. Whoever kills in cold blood shall die in cold blood," the judge said.

"Maryam Sanda should reap what she has sown," he said, adding, "it is blood for blood".

Without doubt, the woman deserved what she got but think about the babies she left behind, who will take care of them? Is death really the reward of what her husband did? 

Let's read this other story too.... Last year, a 20 years old student of Ekiti State University, Ado-Ekiti allegedly stabbed her lover, to death.

The lady who was a 300 level student of the department of Biology education stabbed her lover to death for refusing to give her #2,500 to make her hair.

According to the report of this story, the lady had demanded for #2,500 from her lover who happen to be a student of EKSU then, to make her hair but argument ensued after the lover refused to give her the money.

During the altercations, Odeyemi stabbed her lover in the chest and his cry for help attracted the neighbors, but unfortunately he did not survive the injury.

The lady in question was immediately arrested and we can all guess what it will lead to...

Sanda in her own story got uncontrollable for hours while she was angry which is very bad. Meanwhile, the fact that she got angry wasn't bad but the fact that she kept expressing the anger continually for hours with different weapons can be termed deadly. She never had the time to consider her kids as well as where her such act will take her to and for the fact that she stabbed her husband severally and inflicting different wounds on him show that it is no more jealous but madness.

Meanwhile, we can say Odeyemi had little time to think about what her action will lead to but that doesn't justify her own madness too. In relationship, supporting and caring for your partner is good but this shouldn't be one sided. Seeing guys as a fund givers in relationship is wrong and it is a well known fact that many ladies survives quite well without depending on a man.   

With these two stories above, we can see that there is no good in being over jealous and giving room for anger. This two things can be managed properly if given considerable time, take time to put your anger to check, listen to pleads and think more about the end point of your action before taking them. 

God help us...